When the school grades arrive, the evaluation arrives that contrasts expectations and reality, that is, between the effort and the achievements made by the children.
The grades or evaluations speak of results and objectives achieved through numerical, quantitative and measurable indicators regarding the learning and maturational level of the children. However, they do not always reflect the dedication children have put into tests, assignments, and homework. So what should we do when children get bad grades?
The importance of grades or grades lies in whether they can give the answers about if children fail they are due to lack of effort or their own ability. Therefore, we have to go beyond simple numbers and quantifications. For example, it may happen that the child tries too hard and does not get the desired results. Therefore, the grades, evaluations and results must be interpreted with a certain relativism.
When the child gets bad grades, it indicates that something is not going well, for some reason the child does not reach the objectives. You can tell us:
- Lack of habit in the study
The main cause of failures is the lack of strategies to learn to learn. Children do not know how to study and have difficulty developing this ability.
- Little motivation
It is the second cause of failure. They are not interested in learning, nor do they understand it. If something does not motivate, there is no interest.
We cannot forget that, as detailed in the article 'Motivation and learning' published in the Education Alterity magazine of the Salesian Polytechnic University, motivation is what determines with how much energy and enthusiasm we face something. This plays a decisive role in children's learning, since it predisposes them to face what they have to learn with more enthusiasm and enthusiasm. Thus, learning occurs in a simpler way, although it is necessary that the child's brain has the necessary structures to relate the new concepts that we offer them.
- Learning difficulties
When there are difficulties in several subjects and it is not in accordance with the effort shown, it must be considered that it is difficult for the child to understand and see if there is no disability that prevents them. In these cases, the dialogue between teachers and parents will help decide what is the best strategy to help the child. It may be helpful to have the opinion of a child psychologist or pedagogue.
- Lack of effort
Children get used to obtaining things without effort, they do not understand the need to dedicate will to achieve something.
- Found emotions
Being worried or sad makes it harder for children to concentrate. And concentration is very important to create good study habits in children.
Poor grades are the prime concern of parents, being a source of conflict within the family. Coping with these poor results is not easy. Adults feel disappointed and frustrated without knowing what to do to help their children to solve.
Therefore, it is vital the trust that the family places in the teachers and the communication between them to find solutions to find the type of help that children require. In this sense, tutorials throughout the course, both with and without the child, are very useful. The task of parents is to educate their children, but before helping them plan the subsequent study they must face the 'drama' of the poor results obtained by the child.
To do this, adults have to remain calm and face the situation with an attitude of seeking solutions and not of reproaches and punishments.
1. No yelling
By raising your voice, the only thing that is achieved is that the child gets scared, cries or feels bad, and does not want to tell us anything. The fact of yelling at children can block them, and they will not know how to react, in addition to it will take them away from us.
2. Bet on affective communication
Listen actively. Go beyond what the children say and focus on what they feel. They are very likely frustrated and disappointed as well.
3. Don't dramatize
Bad grades are bad grades. We must put aside depressive or excessively dramatic attitudes. The world does not end because the child fails or has to repeat a grade. And we cannot make him understand that he is a failure or that he is not good for the study. What the child needs is encouragement.
4. Investigate the causes
It is convenient to ask the children why they think you have obtained these marks. From your answer, we can see if it is necessary to consult with specialists. In this way, we will make the child reflect on the reasons behind these low grades and it will be easier to solve them.
5. Show affection
Give support since academic failure is a situation where the child's self-esteem can be endangered. Otherwise children may, for example, develop fear of exams.
6. Help them develop more motivation and interest in studying
Parents can stimulate their children's motivation with different activities. The goal should be that the children have more desire to continue studying or to continue striving to improve in the next assessment or course. They will be more motivated to fight to improve their grades.
7. Make a study plan with them
This curriculum must be realistic and motivating. In addition, we must raise it together with the child so that he is involved in carrying it out.
We do not want our children to get bad grades in school, in any subject, however, knowing how to get the positive out of complicated situations is also a virtue. And we can also learn from the poor school results of our children (both we, the parents, and the children).
- Detect a problem as soon as possible
As we have already told you, poor grades can occur because children have some kind of problem, be it an emotional conflict that does not allow them to perform 100% in class or a learning problem. Therefore, poor school results can be the excuse to start investigating with the teachers and find out about our son's problem as soon as possible.
- Learn from mistakes
How much can we learn from our mistakes! Everyday! These bad grades can also serve as a reflection for children so that they learn and rectify what they have done wrong and that has caused these low results. For example, is it possible that the child has spent too much time with the mobile which has taken time away from studying? If that reflection comes from our own son, he will realize what he must change.
- The effort is rewarded, although you have to work it
Am I trying hard enough? Effort is often rewarded (although children must also learn that injustices also exist).
- Reflect on grades
Sometimes parents are the first to give extreme importance to grades and when we see that our children have low numbers on their report cards, we cry out loud. However, we must reflect: what is more important? That children get good numerical grades or that they learn? Do children have to be good at all subjects or are there disciplines in which they are better? Are we adults good at everything? Do we never do our jobs wrong?
- An excuse to motivate yourself
Now that the children have gotten poor grades, they already have an excuse to motivate themselves for the next assessment or next course: learn more, try harder and improve results.
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